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一目惚れに関する調査によると、実際に一目惚れを経験したカップル1500人のうち、55%がそのまま結婚したそうです。さらに、一目惚れで結婚した場合は離婚率が非常に低いという調査結果もあります。つまり、一目惚れをしている人は幸せになる可能性を手にしているということが統計的にも証明されているのです。

しかし、一目惚れをしたからといってすぐに付き合えるわけではありません。付き合う前に、親密な関係にならなければなりませんし、親密な関係になる前に顔見知りにならなければなりません。実はこの、知らない人から顔見知りになることが一番難しいのです。

本記事では、どうやって一目惚れした相手と顔見知りになるか、知らない人から知っている人になるかをご紹介します。その他大勢の知らない人のままではチャンスはありません。知らない人のまま終わりたくないと思う方は、ぜひ本記事を参考にしてください。

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内気な人が知らない人に一目惚れ

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知らない人に一目惚れした場合、まずは顔見知りになることから始まります。社交的で友人も多い人く誰とでもすぐに仲良くなれる人であればこの問題はすぐにクリアできるでしょう。

では、内気な人が知らない人に一目惚れしてしまったらどうでしょう。これなかなり難しい問題です。特に日本人はシャイな人が多いので、一目惚れしていなくても、知らない人とすぐに仲良くなることが苦手です。

そこで、内気な人が学校・会社で知らない人に一目惚れした、というケースを想定して、知らない人と顔見知りになる方法をご紹介します。内気な人が一目惚れした場合でも使える方法であれば、内気でない人が一目惚れした場合も使える理屈です。

知らない人には不安感を覚える

もし、あなたが次のような状況になった時に肯定的に答えるでしょうか?

  • 一目惚れされた知らない人に話しかけられる
  • 一目惚れされた知らない人に食事に誘われる
  • 一目惚れされた知らない人にディズニーランドに誘われる
  • 一目惚れされた知らない人に海外旅行に誘われる
  • 一目惚れされた知らない人にドライブに誘われる
  • 一目惚れされた知らない人にアドレスを聞かれる
  • 一目惚れされた知らない人に電話番号を聞かれる
  • 一目惚れされた知らない人に住所を聞かれる
  • 一目惚れされた知らない人にプレゼントを渡される
  • 一目惚れされた知らない人に告白される

おそらく1つとして肯定的には答えないと思います。別に相手はあなたのことが嫌いなわけではありません。あなたのことを知らないからです。人は知らないことに不安を覚えます。なので、まずはあなたのことを知って貰う必要がありますし、あなたも相手のことを知る必要があります。

一目惚れした相手の情報を集める

まずは相手の情報を集めましょう。

  • 付き合っている人はいるのか
  • 誰と仲が良いのか・誰が嫌いか
  • 好きな色・嫌いな色
  • 好きな食べ物・嫌いな食べ物
  • 好きなテレビ番組・嫌いなテレビ番組
  • 好きなスポーツ・嫌いなスポーツ
  • 好きな芸能人・嫌いな芸能人
  • 血液型
  • 誕生日
  • 何人兄弟か

これにはある心理学の実験がによって裏付けされている理由があります。

知らない人にも好意を抱かせる類似性

大勢の学生に全く知らない人の顔写真とプロフィールを配ります。その人は連続殺人犯で、顔写真・プロフィール・犯罪歴を伝えた後にその殺人犯の印象を訪ねます。すると、ほとんどの学生が「最悪」「人間とは思えない」といった反応をします。

ところが、その犯人が自分と同じ誕生日だとわかると「最悪だけど、つらい人生だった思う」「ダメなことだけど、チャンスを与えれば更生できるかもしない」と犯人を擁護する意見が多く出てきました。たった一つの小さな共有点を作っただけで連続殺人犯の印象さえも変えてしまうことができるのです。

このように、人は知らない人であっても自分と似た人を好きになります。性格や容姿、好き嫌いなど自分と似た部分を持つ人に好意を持ちやすいのです。あなたが一目惚れをしたのもこの理由かもしれません。例え、全く知らない人でも情報を得ることで好意を持ってもらいやすくすることができることが心理学的に立証されています。

知らない人の気を引くカクテルパーティー効果

ではどうやって一目惚れした相手の情報を友好的に利用するのか。相手に声・目が届く範囲にいる必要があります。そこで相手が好きな食べ物やテレビ番組、芸能人の話をします。すると、相手は必ずあなたの声に反応します。

人はどんなに騒がしい場所でも自分の名前や知人の声など自分に関連する情報に注意を向けることができます。これをカクテルパーティー効果と言います。知らない人であっても自分の興味の会話などには無意識に聞き取ってしまうのです。

一目惚れした相手がその会話に反応してあなたに目をやると、自分の好きな色や自分の好きな髪型の人がいます。うまくいけば相手があなたに一目惚れする可能性もあります。そこまでいかなくても無意識の状態で一目惚れした相手は間違いなくあなたに好意を持っています。これで十分です。

あなたは知らない人に一目惚れしてから全く相手と会話をしていません。相手から見てもあなたは知らない人です。お互いに知らない人同士なのにお互いに好意を抱いている状況に持ち込みました。ここまで持ち込めば一目惚れした相手から声をかけてくるかもしれません。

もし、一目惚れした相手からの接触がなければ次の段階に移ります。

一目惚れした相手を巻き込む・巻き込まれる

直接一目惚れした相手に話しかけるのは難しいので、この場合は周りの人に助けてもらいましょう。簡単なのは巻き込み型と巻き込まれ型です。巻き込み型はグループで話している時に友達に一目惚れした相手を会話に巻き込む方法です。巻き込まれ型は一目惚れした相手と自分の友達が話している時に自分に会話を降ってもらう方法です。

実はこの方法を使っていたのがダウンタウンの松ちゃんです。松ちゃんは子どもの頃からものすごい人見知りで、知らない人と友達になることができませんでした。その彼がどうやって友達を増やしたのか。

一人友達ができたら、その友達の友達と一緒に遊ぶ。そして、仲良くなったらさらに友達と仲良くなる、この方法で知らない人とでも友達になることができた、つまり巻き込まれ型です。

この方法を快く引き受けてくれるのが女子です。学校でもよくやっているのを見たことでしょう。とにかく他人の恋愛に関して女子はものすごい情熱を持って行動します。ホストもビックリするくらい知らない人でも平気で声をかけます。相手の情報収集についても女子に任せれば探偵もビックリするくらいの仕事を見ることができます。

女子に協力してもらった時点でこの方法は間違いなく成功します。おそらく、女子ははしゃいでかなり強引な手段を使ってあなたが一目惚れをしたことを相手に気づかれる可能性もありますが、構いません。なぜなら既にあなたは類似性によって既に一目惚れした相手の好意を得ているからです。自分が好意を持っている相手に一目惚れされて嬉しくない人間はいません。

一目惚れの科学 (ディスカヴァー携書)
森川 友義
ディスカヴァー・トゥエンティワン
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まとめ:知らない人に一目惚れしたら女子に頼る

本記事では、知らない人に一目惚れした場合に相手と顔見知りになる方法をご紹介しました。もう一度その方法をおさらいしましょう。

  • 情報収集をする
  • 相手に聞こえるところで会話をする
  • 会話に巻き込む・巻き込まれる

知らない人に一目惚れをした場合はとにかく顔見知りになるまでの段取りが大事です。例え知らない人にでも好意を持たせることが可能なのは心理学的に実証されています。この方法をうまく使えれば知らない人に一目惚れをしても顔見知りになることはもちろん、付き合える可能性を上げることもできます。

知らない人に一目惚れをした場合はぜひ本記事を参考にしてください。

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